Dealing with Grief & Guilt

The Love That Has Nowhere to Go

Most of us are experiencing grief currently as we continue to raise our vibrations and move into 5d and beyond.

We can choose to release all fear to step forwards now or we can hang on to it and suffer the consequences.

When we want to heal, we can.

This means us choosing to face all our deepest and darkest aspects, feelings and memories that we still hold as we will continue to attract circumstances triggering events that cause us to feel these emotional layers.

We are evolving perfectly and must love ourselves in our imperfection.

Looking at Solfeggio frequencies of release is a way of assisting this process too especially at harmonic healing frequencies of 174hz, 285hz, 396hz and 417hz.
Using heart and throat chakra creams daily is another way to stay well and “vent” heavy emotions.

1. Grief is love with nowhere to go.
When someone we love is no longer physically present, the love does not disappear. We still have all that love inside us, but we no longer have the person, animal or relationship with whom to share it. This can create an enormous sense of emptiness and longing, also anger and frustration.

2. Grief comes in layers, like an onion.
Grief is rarely something we experience once and then completely finish. Instead, it can unfold layer by layer. We may believe we have processed a particular loss, only to discover that another layer is waiting underneath.

3. Triggers can release another layer of grief.
A song, a smell, a photograph, a place, an anniversary, a familiar voice or even a seemingly insignificant moment can suddenly bring the feelings back. This does not necessarily mean we are going backwards. It can mean that another layer is ready to be felt and released.

4. Losing animals and loved ones can create profound grief.
The loss of any type of relationship, or an animal companion can be every bit as significant as the loss of a human loved one. They are part of our lives, our routines and our hearts. When they leave us, there can be a huge amount of love with nowhere physical to place it.

5. Guilt often travels alongside grief.
We may replay conversations, decisions and moments in our minds: I should have done more. I should have said that. I wish I had known. Guilt can make us believe that we could somehow have changed what happened. Compassionately recognising these thoughts can help us separate genuine responsibility from the mind’s attempt to make sense of an irreversible loss.

6. Grief can be complicated by the things left unsaid.
Sometimes we grieve not only the person or animal we have lost, but also the words we never spoke, the hugs we never gave, the apologies we never made or the future we imagined would happen together.

7. The body can carry grief in the lungs.
Grief is not purely an emotional experience. It can be felt physically as heaviness, tightness, exhaustion, a lump in the throat, changes in breathing or a feeling of emptiness in the chest. Different traditions also associate grief symbolically with the lungs and the breath. These associations can be meaningful, but they should not be taken to mean that grief itself causes medical conditions such as pneumonia or pleurisy.

8. We can be triggered into grieving an earlier loss when a new loss occurs.
Sometimes a present-day loss opens the door to grief that was never fully felt before. One bereavement can therefore bring several previous losses to the surface. It can feel as though everything is arriving at once, when in reality several layers of grief are asking to be acknowledged.

9. Grief needs somewhere to go.
Because grief is deeply connected with love, one of the most healing things we can do is find ways to give that love expression. We can speak to the person or animal we have lost, write letters, create rituals, spend time in nature, look at photographs, allow ourselves to cry, or simply sit quietly and feel what is there. The shower is often a good place.

10. Healing does not mean forgetting or letting go of love.
Healing is not about erasing the person, animal or experience from our lives. It is about learning to carry the love differently. Over time, the sharpness of grief may soften, while the love remains. We can honour what was, allow each layer to be felt when it arises, and gradually discover that the love itself can become part of our strength, wisdom and compassion.

Use the heart and throat chakra creams and the lung meridian support cream.